Stay Married And In Love For Years
How Do Couples Stay In Love For Years?
Relationships can be fragile and temporary or they can last a long time so, how do couples stay in love for years? What makes the difference between a relationship ending after just a few weeks or months and a relationship or marriage that lasts for 50 years?
Any relationship starts out as a fragile thing that can disappear in a moment. One wrong look, one wrong word and it can finish instantaneously. It may be a careless word, it could even be a poorly chosen joke that was meant to amuse the other person but in the early stages where there is very little binding a couple together it takes very little to split them apart.
I have my own theory that in those early stages of a relationship misunderstandings are the cause of maybe a third of more of relationships failing and maybe even more than that. When you hardly know someone you are bound to be more cautious and be looking for faults and problems.
When you are already looking for faults and they say something you interpret as something you are uncomfortable with you could easily decide that this relationship is not going anywhere and call it quits. Why would you do otherwise? The early stages of a relationship is almost a contest. You are like two boxers skipping around the ring trying to keep out of range of your opponent while you check them out and analyse their moves.
The risk with this instant judgement of relationships is that there could be a lot more potential in the relationship than you see at the start. How many movies have you seen where a couple nearly split up, or do split up, and then overcome their problems, get together again and are happy and in love for years? Yes, it is only a movie but it happens in real life too.
We are all quick to judge and we may make some major errors in life thanks to our fear of getting hurt or disappointed.
Being In Love For Years
A couple doesn’t get to being married for 50 years without having crossed a few hurdles. Happy marriages and being in love for years is not a myth but it does take some effort and determination to succeed. When the problems land in your lap you have to work out the best way to deal with them and abandoning the marriage is not the first thing you should think of.
It is understandable that anyone who is in a marriage that has been going wrong for a year or more might think that there is no point in trying anymore. It may be that they have stopped loving their partner and cannot see any reason to even try to overcome yet another problem. In some cases they may be right.
It all depends on what you had in your marriage before. Was it wonderful when everything was going right? If so, what went wrong and could there be a way to fix your marriage and make your marriage special once again?
Married And Happy And In Love For Years
Being married and miserable for 50 years is nothing to be proud and nor do I recommend it but being married and happy and in love for years would be very special indeed. The secret is to find what makes you and your spouse special together. Whatever that is the special bond between you is, you should develop it. Work from it and develop other aspects of your relationship.
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