Sometimes We Fall In Love With Someone Who Is Not Right For Us
You must face up to one fact and you may not like to read this but sometimes we fall in love with someone who is not right for us. Even if we succeeded in making them fall in love with us it does not mean we would have a happy lifetime ahead of us. Sometimes we just fall in love with the wrong people. The trouble is we usually don’t realize until it is too late but there might be a few warning signs we can see, if we look hard enough.
They say that love is blind and it certainly can blind us to facts about the person who is the object of our affection. Friends and family may gently, or not so gently, point out weaknesses and failings in the person we love but we cannot, or will not, see them for ourselves. We gloss over any failings and make excuses for them but in truth we may just be kidding ourselves and building up problems for the future. It may be they are someone who is not right for us.
Trying Too Hard For Someone Who Is Not Right For Us
It may be that you trying too hard to be the person you think they want you to be? If you want to be happy with someone for the rest of your life you must be able to be yourself. If the only way to make them fall in love with you is by being a person you are not comfortable being you will very likely reach a point one day where you are more and more unhappy trying to be a person you are not happy to be. It is important to be able to be yourself and for your partner to be happy with you as you are. This is not to say you cannot make changes and if you are happy to change yourself that’s great. Just don’t try to be someone you don’t really like, just to please the person you want to love you.
You may be putting up with behaviour by the person you love that over time you will come to hate and you may hate yourself for having been so weak and unquestioning. None of us is perfect and any relationship will be based on the acceptance that there are certain aspects about your potential partner that are less than perfect. We have to accept that there will be some things they do or say that we would prefer didn’t happen but relationships are a compromise and a balance between the good points and the bad.
Be Honest With Yourself
What you should try to do is be honest with yourself. If there are unacceptable elements in your relationship then you must address those issues or else they will come back to haunt you one day in the future. You would be unwise to expect a perfect relationship as these are extremely rare but you should be able to expect a relationship based on levels of behaviour that are in tune with what you expect from your partner in a relationship.
In Love With Someone Who Is Not Right For Us?
Your Mother may not always be right about prospective partners and your friends may not understand but if other people do have concerns about the person you are in love with and they think it is someone who is not right for us then you should try to take those concerns seriously and consider if the views of these other people may be more objective and honest than your own view of your partner when you are looking at them through rose colored glasses.
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